So you might be feeling stressed after the Engagement celebrations, so much to do and whether this is all happening at the RIGHT time…..you may have a lot of questions with no ‘right’ answers. Let us share some insights into how to get around these completely *normal feelings.
We’re Engaged, OH MY…? Realisation sinks in that this is a a long journey and whether it was the right time, could be crossing your mind. It must feel great to have made the decision for love, stability and future and if there is any uncertainty, this should be communicated to your partner immediately and when both of you are in a positive mood. If there are cultural differences, these should be discussed with priority as you won’t be able to deal with ‘breaking-news’ during wedding preparations.
We’re FIGHTING so much about the WEDDING. Differing opinions are human nature, so disagreeing on the colour theme is understandable but one of the most important ‘marriage life-lines’ is compromise. One side cannot always compromise and so you both (bride-groom) must set reasonable standards. Don’t expect the groom to come home after work with flowers and surprises every second day…..those are just movies and books. Trust us, all marriages start off in the clouds and soon enough the chores and laundry have got the better of you! Once you both learn this, your marriage WILL be easier! Try not to be defensive about your own family as well, try to place yourself in the other person’s shoes. Organise and distribute tasks as evenly between both families as much as you can, they will love being involved and that is what weddings are about too – FAMILY. (Whether you like it or not!). Try to resolve issues between yourselves as family members can ‘twist’ tales and soon enough you both will start wondering if this was the right move. If the arguments are getting worse and issues are not being resolved, then it is best to spend time alone to realise what is IMPORTANT to each of you. Soon enough you both will realise whether this is or isn’t the path for you (yet).
Organising the wedding can sometimes test your compatibility with one another and there will be much more stressful situations in life, so don’t think the ‘hardest’ part will be over with the wedding day.
*There is no true measurement of what is classified as normal.