Some people well actually many men begin to wonder if getting engaged, under pressure (from mainly women, or your fiancé!) is the correct decision for you..
This is just the beginning of an emotional roller coaster, let us tell you why.
Women generally DO expect commitment from a guy, so if you haven’t popped the question and you have been dating a while…..you will likely be getting hints. On the other hand, if you have been single for as long as you can remember and aunties/uncles don’t know what else to ask you at every single family function, except “when are you getting married?” Then of course you shouldn’t feel like getting married because everyone around is or because your relatives feel you are at the ‘right’ age, which should never matter, because its about maturity and understanding or life experience, not defined by an age (we don’t encourage under age marriages either).
So you have successfully completed your education, and you have a great job, with stability….you live in a decent place and are bored of your daily routine:wake up,go to work, come home, eat and sleep. So then you may think marriage is the next logical step to add some spice to your life! In some cases, it actually is the right blend of spices, but in most cases, the honeymoon stages of marriage quickly dissipate and what you’re left with is the same pattern as before : wake up, go to work, come home, eat and sleep.
What’s the solution you ask??
Firstly ask yourself how much you can’t live without your better half (your boyfriend/girlfriend). Then consider the lifestyle you both want to have as a couple. Let us assure you that if one person wants designer branded gifts every week, while the other values simple things and is on a modest budget, then the marriage won’t last. Similarly, if one partner wants to travel to Paris, USA and the other cant afford to, then you are going to end up resenting one another after marriage. You need to discuss these aspects prior to marriage so that you have a better understanding of your partners expectations after marriage. People can change after marriage, we agree but in most part, if you know your partner well enough then minor adjustments like compromise is a key component to a long lasting marriage.
Getting married is a beautiful bond between a couple and families….don’t feel pressured into it. You will know when you’re ready because you will FEEL like you have lived your own life enough and now it’s time to share your experiences with someone special and meaningful!
Share your story! Tell us how you got engaged and how you felt in the comments below!